Don't Dance!

Whoop! Whoop!! Its December!!!

Happy new month! Compliments of the season!! I'm super excited!!!

It is le boo's birthday in less than a week! *wink* We just finished the month of thanksgiving and we shouldn't kick off our dancing shoes just yet! Me, I still have plenty reasons to thank God o - Imagine on 1st of December I fell of a bike! New month oh!! But I still have my legs and I can still dance so 'Come and join me sing hallelujah ...'

So feel free to dance just because you can, anyhow you can and to anything you can! While dancing though, here are five tunes to which we say DON'T DANCE!!!

1) DONT DANCE TO THE TUNE OF BLAME

Everyone is responsible for their actions. Don't be like Adam and Eve - take responsibility, learn from your mistake and move on. Mistakes are steps leading yo to become a better person. By the way, leave the devil out of this - Quit blaming him!

2) DONT DANCE TO THE TUNE OF COMPARISON

We compare goods and services NOT people! King Saul was a powerful and influential man in his time - then he bean to compare himself to David. Comparison only introduces envy, anger, jealousy, low self esteem and rivalry just to mention a few. Comparison based decisions ultimately set you up for failure! Rachael compared herself to her sister Leah because she didn't have children and Leah did which resulted in her giving the maid servant to her husband! Pause! Read that last bit again - SHE GAVE HER HOUSEHELP TO HER HUSBAND BECAUSE SHE WAS COMPARING HERSELF TO HER SISTER, Funny thing is the guy actually loved her more sha but did she see that? 'Nuff said!

3) DONT DANCE TO THE TUNE OF NEGATIVE INFLUENCE

People around you often affect the way you act whether you like it or not! Take Amnon and Jonadab for instance - Amnon liked Tamar and probably told Jonadab about it. That one convinced him to do what he did. The truth is that after a while, you become like the people you have around you, you confide in and you seek advice from. Be careful!

4) DONT DANCE TO THE TUNE OF PEOPLE'S OPINION

I won't say much here - Just check out what happened to Saul in on of the Samuels (whoever finds the passage first and comments before Sunday gets a free coke on me *wink*). Summary of the story is that he listened to the people instead of following God's instructions to the letter and HE paid for it - Not the people but HE!

5) DONT DANCE TO THE TUNE OF THE ENEMY

Don't let your minds be a rubbish dump! If you think something often enough, you start saying it. If you say something often enough, you start doing it. If you do something often enough, it becomes a habit. Habits are what make your character.

(Thought)^x = Temptation

Temptation + Action = Sin

Don't try to solve for 'x' EVER!

For an independent generation, we allow the media to dictate a lot of our standards for us. Won't you rather be clay in the potter's hands than a puppet in someone else's?


God's Girl.


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Everyday People

Can you remember that soap that used to air a while back called 'Everyday People'? Well, as I typed the title, this line from the song entered my head -
'Everyday people - that's you, that's me!

There are four people I'd like to introduce you guys to. You know them already so I won't say much.

First is a sister that's always in church. She doesn't come here anymore now that she's married but she used to stay with her uncle who's an active member of the church. I don't know much about her parents so I won't assume here but this sister seems weird sometimes - not strange weird but she does things that are just kind of absurd. Can you imagine that she went to marry one old man just because she felt God told her to? She honestly didn't do it for money or love oh! Anyway I'm not among of her mind ...

Next is someone we're more likely to know. He's pretty popular - He's in authority and everyone respects him. He is also a God freak but you may think it doesn't really matter since he's in a high position in government. The thing is that his 'God-titude' was making his colleagues uncomfortable so they planned to have him fired or at least transferred. His Christianity was challenged to the extent of losing his job and his life but he didn't flinch. That's some serious courage though!

The third person is another sister that's present for every program with her whole family. She's been married for a while but doesn't have children and her husband because of family pressure and before he fully committed himself to God, took another wife. The second wife has children and they all come to church together but you could tell for a while that the issue was eating her up. Anyway, long story short, I heard her crying on the altar some years ago for a child and promised God that he would be a pastor. I didn't see this sister for a while and I heard a few months ago that they live in Ogbomoso now - the details of the reason I don't know yet but I'm suspecting it has something to do with that promise ...

Last but definitely not least is someone I like to call a man of many talents; there's almost nothing he cannot do! He's still also very humble, willing to learn and though he makes mistakes sometimes, I can see that his priority is pleasing God ALWAYS! He likes to write as well so that makes him extra special to me *wink* The way he dances in church too - Let's just say it's a show on its own!

I forgot to tell you their names!!! In order of appearance, we have sister Esther, brother Daniel, sister Hannah and brother David. In case you haven't figured it out yet, these people are indeed the bible characters we know - Queen Esther, Daniel in the lion's den Daniel, Hannah the mother of prophet Samuel and great King David. Can you see that they were just regular people too? So whenever you feel overwhelmed or discouraged, there's always something for you in the bible - it might be someone who's gone through something similar and their story encourages you or it might be just a word that lets you know that everything's going to be okay.

Remember that line at the beginning? Well my modification is
'Everyday people - that's you, that's me, that's them!!!'

Believe it or not, the bible is full of ordinary people doing extraordinary things!!! You can be one too.

God's Girl.

To marry or not to marry

Hello people of God,

This is a reply to our last post. If you haven’t read it yet, you should hold on and click here to read first.

Is it okay to marry a Muslim?

This question sparked a stream of conversation from those who saw reason with people that might consider it to those who were outrightly against it. Where do you stand? This is what God says:

'Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?'
                                                                                                                                                2 Cor 6:14

Well, the bible clearly says no but what if he/she treats you better than that Christian Brother or sister?  We need to come to understand the fact that we are not marrying religion but character. Hold up! This doesn’t mean I’m endorsing it – Just read to the end.

Let's face reality though - as guys, you want to be respected and as ladies you want to be loved first of all. This is usually the first thing you get attracted to in a person of the opposite sex. There are specific qualities you admire as an individual and these also fuel the attraction usually before you get to the 'religion' base. There are certain 'Christians' who are monsters so to speak but hide under the cover of that title. One thing we should understand is that just because the other person is Christian doesn't give them access to your mind based on the Jesus connection. You still need to talk, let them know how you feel tell them what you think is okay and what isn't because lack of communication is one major cause of failed relationships. It seems easier to communicate with someone of a different background or faith because we actually take time out to explain certain things to them that we assume 'same faith partners' know.

Back to the issue, is it okay since we're talking about character here? I have just three things to say.

1.       You're not just marrying the man, you're marrying his family

The thing most single people fail to realize is that marriage is not just you and him or you and her. As much as you are on your own, we are in Africa. The extended family is a big part of marriage therefore their opinions about you matter to a large extent. This is not to say that they would form the basis of your decisions but I like to say that forever is a VERY LONG time so you don't want to get on their bad side if it can be avoided.

2.       You need to have the same basic value system with your spouse

Raising kids in this day and age is tough enough without the parents having extreme opinions about basic things. The couple needs to have one stand on a lot of issues and if the core of your value system is Christianity then you can't have the same value system. There's that tendency to water the truths of scripture, which you believe, down just so you won't offend them. Where does that leave your kids? The differences can even become a hindrance in your personal walk with Christ. God has chosen you for a reason. Are you going to be able to fulfill it?

Gen 18:19

''For I have chosen (you), so that (you) will direct (your) children and (your) household after (you) to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just, so that the LORD will bring about for (you) what he has promised (you)."

3.       You need to redefine character

Character is the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual. As wholesome as this sounds, there is something missing - not to go all spiritual on you but the God in you isn't the god in them. A Muslim man is allowed to marry a Christian woman because as the head of the home, he decides how the children are raised and you generally can't shake his faith but a Muslim lady can't marry a Christian guy for about the same reasons - that's raising another generation without Christ. The Jesus in them factor is very crucial to developing character. Character is built based on background and circumstances but what if the situation changed, would his/her character change?

At this point, some might say 'I'm not marrying her/him, we're just dating', and my question is 'To what end'? You're compounding your problems because when you eventually start dating that good Christian girl and there's something the Muslim did that she didn't do, then you have a basis for comparison. It's not like she's not treating you right but as much as she makes up in other areas, there's that one thing she doesn't do! Don't worry about time - that's the issue most Christian girls (or generally African females) are faced with when it comes to marriage. This brings me to 'Are Christians allowed to date?', but we would tackle that in another post.

On a lighter and slightly related note, everyone should see the movie 'Too Saved'.

In conclusion, prepare to be the right person first - It's easier to find the right person that way because unlike the laws of nature - Like poles CAN attract.

What do you think?

P.S. The retreat starts on Wednesday. Singles mingle, Couples double – No be me talk am oh. Na so dem advertise for church *wink* Anyway if you haven’t paid, PAY TODAY oh!!! I decided to post this today so I can pack tomorrow :D

See you there!

God's Girl.

To boo or not to boo

*in Shakespeare's voice* To boo or not to boo - that is the question!

Please read, digest and COMMENT!!!

I need your advice

I'm going to tell you a little bit about TJ. He's very hard working and he makes sure we talk everyday. We're not officially a couple but we've gone for lunch together a couple of times. He's well respected in his firm and he's very close to his family as well - His mum is just amazing! She treats me as one of her daughters - In fact she treats all the family's friends as family. And his two sisters are good friends as well. How we bonded I dont even understand but I'm loving our relationship. Still TJ and I are not dating. I know he has strong feelings for me - We've been friends for a while and he's told me a couple of times that he's willing to wait until I'm ready. He listens when I talk and he encourages me to do my own thing - yet when I do something I probably shouldn't have, he tells me. I like the fact that he isn't afraid to tell me when I'm wrong but he doesn't force his opinions down my throat and in certain cases, we've agreed to disagree and its not a national issue. I'm not still hurting from past relationships, far from it! I have those scars as a proof of victory!
I'm not looking for a Mr Perfect because from all indications, TJ has his flaws but is as close to it as they get. 
So what is the problem you ask? Why haven't I said yes since I think I'm ready?

Well, its just that as a young Christian lady trying to do the right thing, I don't know if I should date him.

You see Mr Tijani Ahmed is Muslim.

What should I do? 

Well, waiting for your comments!
P.S. Youth retreat is at Living Word Camp Ibeju Lekki!

Gods Girl