The SuccSEXful marriage.

 

I was  in my ‘cabal’ (special group of friends in New Estate that share intimate matters alongside encouraging each other) meeting one day when one of us, after saying the closing prayers said; “ brothers, in being intimate with your wives, do not share ‘the grace’ too quickly. Try and stay a little longer so your wife will be satisfied also. The pleasure is not all yours!” Hearing this, I fell to the ground, rolling in laughter. I could not contain this funny yet very serious issue all by myself.  Sadly, this is an area in relationship some christians dare not go. Research has revealed that it’s either that the couples experiencing this problem are egocentric (not wanting to feel like it’s a problem) or are too ‘Holy’ to learn about it. Truth is; if you are not giving that sexual experience/pleasure, you are living an unhealthy relationship. I’m talking more to the men here because this situation is peculiar with men or the onus lies on them. I’m sure most women want a satisfactory dose of sex in marriage. I’m also thinking that men wouldn’t mind making it ‘happen’ for their wives. So, where could we have a problem? What could possibly go wrong? Can everyone make it happen? Is there a school for those who don’t know how? These are some of the questions we shall find answers to as we go through SuccSEXful successful marriage.

What’s the first question on your mind right now? Let me guess – “Oje who is not even married yet wants to tell us things about married people. Is he qualified?”. Well, Oga at the top, no vex! When I get my certification in that department, I will place an advert. But by the time you take your beautiful wife to that 5 star hotel room on your wedding night and ‘junior’ refuses to perform, you will give me a midnight call, and I will bill you so very high because I know you will pay!..lol. For those who already know these stuffs, don’t be bored. There are some of us who, due to upbringing or Christian background, need to be convinced that it’s not a sin to learn about such matters (…at the right time!)

Now guys, this is for you:

 

There are a lot of things that could happen on the ‘matrimonial bed’ but one thing could also go wrong, lo two can be devastating! Soft erection or/and premature ejaculation. Both of them can make the marriage bed calamitous (i don't even know what that means..lol). But if you fall victim or are currently experiencing that, don’t panic. No worries... You are not impotent! ..lol. It is not a problem (that cannot be solved). Shit happens!

This is how far we can learn today. Tell you what? I will continue after our fellowship next Tuesday. Pastor Emmanuel is planning to hit us below the belt:-). And I need to learn more… I’m of the school of thought that: “Other people’s knowledge (OPK) can be a better teacher than Experience”. When I return, I will tell you possible causes, turn-on & turn-off and how you can help yourself and your spouse ...the healthy way.

Until then, I will leave you with one word ‘Kegel’ exercise. Google it up and keep what you find to yourself. Don’t tell pastor that I told you o! According to one of my ‘cabal friends. “What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas!”

Don't foreget the rule: Song of Songs 2:7b.