The Successful marriage -Staying on top of your game!

Once a friend was glancing through my New Estate photo album (picture collection) and he said to me; “Frank, these your church babes are so hot they could pass as cure for Erectile Dysfunction” I laughed my head off! ha-haha! I think he’s right though! We have very beautiful girls in NEBC/Foresight. Why we let most of our merchandise  slip thru to other markets is a question for another day. As they say; a prophet is not honoured in his own village.
 

Sex therapists define premature ejaculation as a lack of ejaculatory control, which interferes with sexual or emotional well being in one or both partners. While not particularly informative for the layperson, this definition shows that premature ejaculation has a strong negative impact on a man's emotional well being, especially by making him less confident in himself.

 

It's perfectly clear that inexperience is one of the biggest causes of premature ejaculation.

Inexperience is not a crime though, it’s also not a problem. Remember, marriage is what gives you the license to experiment with the right person. Be proud! Everyone’s a learner at one point or the other. What you need to know? Poor confidence, poor diet, lack of sleep, poor fitness, anxiety or beign nervous, financial condition, not wanting to get caught (Quicky) or fear of making a bad impression on someone around you, who may find out… are some major causes of accidental-discharge (shooting too quickly :-).

 On the psychological side, premature ejaculation can be caused by depression, stress, unrealistic expectations (she’s not the ‘beauty’ you expected), or the reinforced lack of confidence (when you have failed to make it happen recurrently). Most of the causes listed here could also pass as that of Soft Erection. They are all in the category of ED (Erectile Dysfunction).

So what are the other causes of soft erection? A weak or soft erection indicates that there is no sufficient blood flow to the penis. Penile chambers and tissues that are filled with blood and hold it are just not getting enough blood. Different factors can make arteries and veins to constrict and reduce blood flow. Some of the factors may be smoking , drugs & alcohol, a recent masturbation, high fat diet, etc.

 
What to do?

Can everyone (married) really have a great and regular sexual experience? Yes! And is there a school for couples who don’t know how? You are on your own. If you can keep your ego in the box, try visit a consultant. Truth is, whether you will be able to delay ejaculation or keep a strong erection, it’s all in your head! How to control it is what you need to learn. Otherwise you might just need to change your lifestyle, diet or habits. Below are a few tips, in addition to the one you already know (kegel).

 1.      Eat well, keep it hard: Simple changes in your diet can increase your libido and give you a harder erection. Foods like wheat and vegetables, then bananas, eggs, nuts, figs, chilies, onions, and even wine can increase your sexual prowess. A word of caution: Steer clear of junk food.

2.     You need exercise: Healthy men are always sexually active. Exercise is one of the best ways to increase your sex drive and sexual potency. It reduces stress which is an erection-killer, and helps enhance testosterone production in the body. Kegel exercises are a perfect workout for the penis.

3.     Avoid smoking or drinking alcohol: You must have heard this a million times, smoking and drinking can really affect your sexual life. Smoking decreases your blood circulation, and results in less lung capacity. It can impact your ability to get and maintain an erection. And alcohol can numb the body and lead to temporary erectile dysfunction.

4.     Avoid masturbation: Save something for a real sex. Excessive masturbation can decrease your sexual appetite. Continual erections and ejaculations may lead to weaker erection the next day. So, control the urge!

5.     Know the right sex positions: Always warm up with oral sex. Sexual positions like missionary and doggy style allow more blood flow, leading to a stronger and harder erection. And don't ever let her ride you first!

6.     Throw away those tight undergarments: Avoid wearing tight, or any, undergarments, for that matter, while sleeping. It restricts blood flow to the penile tissues which in turn can affect erection strength. Always go for loose, airy underwear.

 One more important thing: as you work on this, simply stop worrying about weak erections and lead a healthy sex life. For further enquiries, consult a therapist. I have closed my books. J

 Wishing you all the best in your intimacy!

Don't forget the rule: Song of Songs 2:7b - do not awaken love until it so desires…

 Remember: what happens in Vagas stays in Vagas!

 Warning!!!- All I have told you in this article are based on research (other peoples knowledge). If it does not suit you, don’t blame me! I’ve not fully tested them myself. No vex!